From left, Eric Garner’s stepfather, Benjamin Carr, mother Gwen Carr and his widow Esaw Garner attend an interfaith prayer service at Mount Sinai United Christian Church to mark the one-year anniversary of the death of Eric Garner in New York on July 14, 2015.
Before my son, Eric Garner, was killed by the police, I would not have considered myself a politically active person. Out of a sense of obligation, I voted — but it was just something that I did robotically. Much of the time, I didn’t even know who the politicians were before I went to vote, or know anything about what they stood for.
My parents, particularly my father, always made a point of knowing, though, and he would always voice his opinion about why we should or shouldn’t vote for a particular person. He would always emphasize to us that, no matter the age or the race of the candidate, we needed to vote for people who were going to do something for us as constituents.
The biggest lesson that people can take from what happened to my family is that we all need to be aware of what’s going on in the world, even if it feels fatiguing. Everyone should not just tune out all the tragedies of the world, especially when those tragedies get treated as “just another news story.” Anything can happen to you or your children out there; no one expects to be a news story.
I understand where the people are coming from when they say it’s all too much, to keep up with the news, to figure out the politicians, to vote in every election. To the people who have the two jobs, the three children, I say, I’ve been there, and I’ve done that. But we still have to get out there, we have to do something. We have to take time for the things that may affect us.
Me, I don’t like to write. So instead, I go up to Albany, and I get in the faces of our politicians. I try to emphasize what I want from our government, and what I need elected officials to do. For instance, I went to Albany with a group of other New York mothers in 2015, and got Governor Cuomo to sign an executive order that allowed a special prosecutor from the state attorney general’s office to investigate all police killings of unarmed people for a year. (He’ssince extended it.) And what this does is that, when these senseless killings take place, the cases are taken it out of the hands of the local district attorney and put in the hands of the state attorney general.
This is not fully a law yet — we’re still working to get the state legislature to pass it — but it is a Band-aid for the conflict of interest inherent in having the local district attorney in charge of prosecuting police officers who have killed unarmed civilians until we can get legislation passed.